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5 Tips To Help You Get Your Ex Back Fast

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Unless both you and your ex cordially agree splitting up is the right thing to do, then breakups almost always leave emotional baggage in their wake.  These feelings are not only painful, they are also disorienting and often leave you confused and second-guessing yourself.

If you’ve sorted through all the confusion and know with 100% certainty you want your ex back, there are a few ways you can shift the power in your favor.  Here are 5 tips that can help you get your ex back fast.

It Starts With You

Yes, you’ve heard it all before, but if you want your ex back, it definitely starts with YOU, not them.  Believing in yourself and having confidence make you more attractive to your ex.  Why?  Because confidence is sexy.

The problem is, a breakup often shatters your confidence.  It makes you feel small, worthless, used, forgotten, depressed, and a hundred other negative emotions.  So what do you do?  You withdraw and become inhibited.

The solution is to work on building yourself up again.  The best way to do that is to turn your focus onto something you love, try something new, or help someone else in a positive way.  You really DO matter.  So, don’t ever forget that.

Set Boundaries

This is all about being honest with yourself about how you feel and what you want.  It’s never easy to tell someone else how you feel, but the only way to resolve and repair a relationship is to be honest about what you want and need.

What are you willing to give?  What are you willing to accept?  Are the problems in your relationship things you can resolve and move past?  Knowing where you and your ex stand will help you determine if getting back together is even a possibility.

Be Open To Communication

If you want your ex back, you need to remain “friends” and be open to communication.  Staying emotionally close as much as possible can help maintain a connection and chemistry.  It helps open the door for getting back together down the road.

If your breakup is fresh, be sure to take time for yourself and give each other space before you attempt to have any kind of friendship.  If it’s too painful for you or your ex, then respect each other’s feelings and don’t push it.   Text messages are a great way to remain emotionally close without needing to be with each other physically.  But not just any text will do.  Learn more about the types of texts you should send to make your ex love you and not hate you at

Don’t Give Up Shared Friends

If you just went through a breakup, you may be tempted to let-go of people who are mutual friends with you and your ex.  Don’t!  Just act natural.  Keep doing what you would normally do with or without your ex.

This has several benefits.  First, you won’t alienate any of your friends.  Second, it gives you opportunities every now and again to be where your ex is.  This helps you stay at the forefront of his or her mind.  And lastly, it has a powerful psychological effect on your ex when your actions exude confidence that you’re “ok”, rather than a basket-case who breaks down every time you see a picture of your ex or see him or her out in public.

Move On

By move on, I simply mean don’t sit around waiting for your ex to come back.  Keep living your life.  Go out and date other people.  This sends a clear message to your ex that you’re ok without him or her, and you’re not going to just sit around waiting for them to decide if they want you back.  It’s often the kick in the pants they need to take action and come crawling back to you!